Day 28 Of The Gender Queer Challenge

The question for day 28 is; Who are some people in your life, on or offline, who make your life better? Your relationship doesn’t have to be related to queerness.

First I don't have that many people in my life period. One person who makes my life better all the time is Alexander Yoo my current best friend, My lovely S.O. makes my life wonderful most of the time but her inability to deal with my being gender queer also causes much pain. Carla Irene Anderson who helped so much during our last move and whose struggles so often mirror my own. Then there are all the wonderful people I know online who so often have extended a helping hand, inspired me and made me think.

Day 27 Of The Gender Queer Challange

The task for today is Write a poem about being Genderqueer. (if you struggle, try a haiku, acrostic poem with your name, or just a stream of conciousness paragraph). Allright then lets see what I can come up with.

I dance in the gender cloud
I change and morph my gender as I will
My will makes the gender probabilities real
I dance not in the spaces you know but beyond them
I am gender queer and delight in this
I dance in the gender queer cloud of infinite possibilities
I dance to become

Day 26 Of The Gender Queer Challange

The question for day 26 is Discuss how your clothes do or don’t reflect your gender.

Until recently my clothes didn't reflect my gender. In the last few months, however, I have acquired some woman's shoes, shirts and camisoles. Now I mix and match my clothes depending on my mood and what I'm doing that day. I'll dress any where from mostly male with just jewelry and nail polish to all woman's clothes and just my boy jeans. As I expand my wardrobe I'm going to have even more fun.

I'm Back

In case you haven't noticed I've been absent for a while. I'm in the middle of a move from California to New Mexico.

However inspired by the brilliant Natalie Reed I've decided to start posting again. I'm starting by finishing up the 30 day gender queer challenge. A littke kate I know but I still have things to say.

I am ART!

Meaning I have a tattoo from Pat Fish.

The traditional transgender symbol is the center of my new tattoo. The celtic knot band is the style called transformation. Getting this symbol of my transition was made all that much nicer by Pat Fish's very trans and gender queer friendly attitude.

Day 25 Of The Gender Queer Challenge

Maybe I should change the title of these posts to Item instead of Day. Anyway here is question twenty-five, Your first queer crush or relationship.

My first queer relationship was my first lover. At the time I still thought I was male and so was my lover.

Day 24 Of The Gender Queer Challenge.

Well I've totally blown the one a day goal for these posts because of travel so let's see if we can finish this off today. Next up is question twenty-four, How has your relationship with the cisgender people in your life changed?

With my S.O. it has been major and we are still working through these issues. With a former lover the changes were minor because he had always seen my femme aspect. Most other cis people in my life have no idea I'm transtioning.  It's not that I hide it's that I don't advertise it. Being old I don't show that much change even though I've been on Estrogen for almost two years. As due to my domestic situtaion I will probably never change my legal name or gender marker I will probably always be read as male. On the other hand as I dress more and more femme and use my chosen name whenever possible I do tend to confuse some people quite a bit.

Day 23 Of The Gender Queer Challenge

As we wind this down we hit question twenty-three,Do you feel comfortable answering questions about your gender to friends? Acquaintances? Strangers?

Weel as most of my friends are fellow trans people I have no trouble at all talking to them at all. As for acquaintances and strangers, it's never come up so I don't have any idea how comfortable I would be answering questions about my gender. I hope if it ever does come up I can answer honestly however uncomfortable it may make me.

Day 22 Of The Gender Queer Challenge

We are nearing the end of what has proved a very interesting challenge. It has taught me much about myself be making me think about being gender queer. With out further ado question twenty-two, What is your sexual and romantic orientations? Are they affected by your gender?

My sexual and romantic orientation is pansexual. I can be sexualy or romantic lay attracted to men, women and those like me who are something else. This was quite true before I realized my gender queer nature and has not changed since. I find that I can be attracted by both good looks and personality. I have become involved with people online well before I ever met them.

Day 21 Of The Gender Queer Challenge

May but we are getting close to the end of the Gender Queer challenge. The twenty-first question is, How has your relationship with yourself been affected since you realized you were Genderqueer?

Oh my, my I'm not sure even where to begin. I had so deeply buried the part of me that was gender queer that it was a blinding revelation when the denial finally broke. I realized I didn't really know myself at all. As a result I went into therapy and have been at it ever since. I am much more comfortable in my own skin now.